This is not a post on how to do your makeup and hair to look better. Let me explain how much I didn’t like taking photos with my face in them; I skipped my Cap and Gown pictures day and didn’t submit a photo for the University Yearbook.

So after trying all the hair and makeup hacks, I realized I needed to deal with this on a deeper level. I needed to like who I was and not what I looked like. Easier said than done, right?

It took years of trial and error, things that worked and things that didn’t. Here’s a list of what I learned on my journey to love myself more:

  1. Don’t do things to leave certain impressions, you lose yourself in the process
  2. Don’t try to fit in by being like everyone else
  3. Some people are just mean, it’s not about you really
  4. Don’t give up on things just because you’re afraid of failing
  5. Your family loves you, be good to them
  6. Do NOT accept abuse under any circumstances
  7. Being rude is not funny, it’s annoying
  8. Be kind as much as you can and as often as you can, you will need that back
  9. God really does have a better plan

It always feels easier to move in the same direction even if it’s not leading anywhere. It wasn’t easy going through all the changes and admitting my mistakes. I made a lot of friends and lost a lot more, but I think it was all necessary to reach this point in my life, where I feel truly blessed and grateful for who I am and what I have been through.